I want to tell you about one of my clients.
I’ll call her Sue, she came to me when she was at the end of her rope.
She was struggling with her children, specifically with her teen… they lacked communication and connection, which just looked like a lot of yelling, talking back and not listening.
Sue’s son would have huge meltdowns, and often get quite volatile… and she didn’t know what to do.
She had heard from others that she needed to be more “strict”, harder or her child… that somehow he would shape up if she learned to be more firm and heavy-handed with him.
Deep down she knew that wasn’t they way she wanted to parent. It didn’t feel good to her, it also didn’t feel like it would help.
After only a few weeks of working together, things started to turn around in their relationship.
He listened more. She felt more connected to him. They understood each other and had better communication skills.
I didn’t force her to do this. I just showed her the magic (intuition) that she already had inside of her, and she used that to start the healing journey.
She’s not unusual in this journey. She’s one of many that have taken this path.
It’s the road less travelled.
This Program is For You If...
You wish your children listened and obeyed without you having to resort to yelling and threats.
You don’t want to parent this way, you fear deep down that you’re ruining them… you’re know there is a better way to parent, but you just don’t know how.
You're looking, spending time reading parenting books, maybe even invested in a course or two, but don’t find any tangible help for YOU in YOUR circumstance with YOUR kids.
You feel like you’re trying, but that nothing you do works, and you lay in bed at night wondering silently if maybe you aren’t cut out for this whole parenting thing?!
You're tired all the time, even when you happen to get a good night's sleep. It's deeper than that, your soul is exhausted.
You sometimes feel good about all the things you are doing but there is a voice in the back of your mind that tells you that your life is actually a mess and you're doing a terrible job (and the voice sounds pretty darn convincing).
You don't spend time on yourself, you don't even remember what you like doing anymore. Your life revolves around dinnertimes, schedules, kids activities, and preventing the next big fight.
The worst part of all this is that these problems lead to resentment aimed at your children
You're not alone
Thousands of mothers feel lost in their motherhood, don't feel like they know themselves anymore and don't know the solution. They want their kids to listen and to create a home filled with peace, joy and contentment, but don't know where to start. Using rewards and punishments in parenting are band-aid solutions, they won't fix the root cause of the behaviour issues you so desperately want to change.
Deep down, you've probably felt the whispering that something different is out there, a new way of thinking, parenting, and being.
There is! Let me show you!
Words from By Design Members:
There is one powerful concept that is fundamental to your relationships with your children.
Working on YOU, NOT THEM is the most effective way to raise emotionally intelligent children.
This isn't a cheap gimmick. It's sustainable and has lasting results.
You may be thinking: this won't work for me, my kids are TOO difficult, it's too late, it's not unique enough for my situation.
It will, and has been proven over and over again in my own life and the lives of my clients.
This is what you can learn and achieve with me in By Design.
I believe in the tools.... and more importantly, I believe in YOU.
Experiences from "By Design" Members
"I feel so much more capable, a bad day doesn’t send me into a spiral. My whole household is more at peace and more manageable. My son apologizes now when it is appropriate instead of when he feels like we want him too."
"I was able to help my child process emotions this week and was surprised at how well it worked!"
"She has helped me to understand the dynamic in my marriage so that I can connect with my husband productively and positively."
In By Design You Get
Every other month we'll deep dive into a topic that will help transform yourself and your parenting
Weekly group coaching to help you implement and maintain the changes you're looking for
Access to a Coach
Throughout the week you can post "ask-a-coach" questions on the Facebook group and get your questions answered
Support from the By Design Community PLUS Other bonuses and perks throughout the program ;)
I am a life coach myself and have been familiar with these life coaching tools for many years but all the greatest coaches have their own coaches as well, and I chose Crystal to be my own parenting life coach because I really respect her approach. I love how she blends her vast knowledge and depth of positive parenting techniques with the life coaching tools. She keeps it real but also pushes us to try something more. I can coach moms on all the same things but actually doing the work on myself really puts all the theory into practice. Crystal is really helping me tap into the feeling work of life and parent coaching more than I ever have before. I am always looking for a quick thought work solution but she’s helping me understand how important it is to really sit with the current emotions first before we can move on to intentional thoughts. Thanks Crystal for all the transformations you’re making within me and the change you are to the world!
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"Working with Crystal has been such an empowering, insightful experience. As a coach myself, I am familiar with all the tools, but Crystal made it so comfortable for me to just be a client and she truly helped me see where I was getting stuck. She is so fun to work with, but also really knows her stuff and is very approachable. She loves what she does and that shows in her coaching. I always left our sessions with helpful new thoughts and was able to put into practice her suggestions. I cannot recommend her enough."
"I was hesitant to do coaching at all because I was afraid to confront my issues, but I finally decided to give it a try. A few years ago I had counseling, and there was a very nice man who listened to me but didn't have me do anything or tell me how I could change or how to handle the things in my life. I knew this would be different, and I was a little nervous. Crystal immediately made me feel at ease. In the first session, she immediately gave me tools to be a happier, whole person. It was not intimidating, it was comforting. In later sessions, we went through some heavy things. She listened intently and showed me how to have compassion for myself and others. She empathized and was incredibly sincere. I think anyone would benefit from coaching with Crystal. You will come away a better person"
"The thoughts that I was having were actually making me less productive; more inclined to avoid working because I was so used to failing myself. The coaching that Crystal provided allowed me to reframe those thoughts and start to make regular progress, which led to feelings of greater competence, which helped me feel more satisfied in my job, and more in control of my own destiny."