The Change Starts With Us
Hi, I'm Crystal!
CERTIFIED LIFE COACH & PARENT COACH
I help make connection-based parenting simple. If you're anything like where I was 5 years ago, you might relate. Do you finish up a parenting book, excited to try some new way of dealing with your kids… only to find yourself breaking up fights 5 seconds later or stressing about how to handle your teen's screen use?
Do you feel fairly confident and loving in the morning, and then end the day yelling over bedtime or using more Xbox time to get your kids to do their chores? Shame-free, connection-based parenting changes everything.
I remember reading SO many amazing books (Gordon Neufeld, Deborah Macnamara, Dan Seigel, and more) only to finish them and wonder: but how do I DO this?! What does it look like?!
I found the application of the amazing ideas I was learning about really hard. My kids seemed challenging often… and I felt like I needed an expert/author inside of my house (or maybe my brain) telling me what to do and say. If this sounds a little bit like you too, you're in the right place.
Figure out this whole modern parenting thing.
Research shows that emotional intelligence is a better indicator of future success than academic intelligence.
Yet, as parents, it's SO easy to get caught up in school grades, fun team sports, and music performances.
Where's the time for teaching empathy, resilience, and regulation- and how do you know they are really 'getting' it?
I'M HERE FOR YOU!
- My entire parenting life is different now. I don't get sucked into mom guilt every night wondering if I'm doing a good job.
- I don't freak out every time a big emotion comes up, for me or for them. I know how to handle it.
- I have healthy and connected relationships with everyone in my home, not just my kids.
- I parent the same way in my home as I do around others, with confidence- even if they disagree with my parenting style.
- I'm on the same page as my partner when handling our kids, supporting and understanding each other.
- I know how to handle tough parenting challenges when they come- and they do come. I don't get stuck in defeat, discouragement, or swirl in self-doubt.
My kids are confident and well-regulated (even the spicy ones!)
We have open communication and little to no fighting in our home.
THIS CAN BE YOUR HOME TOO. I SHARE ALL THE HOW-TO'S ON MY PODCAST.
GET STARTED BY HEARING THE REST OF MY STORY ON THE PARENTING COACH PODCAST (click the podcast image for a roadmap to start listening).
"My son apologizes now when it is appropriate and not just when we want him to. My whole household is more at peace and manageable."
"I realized I was more present with my kids these past few days and we have gotten along better."
"The kids have been taken by surprise because they expected a different behaviour based on the past and that didn’t happen."
"I was able to help my child process emotions this week and was surprised at how well it worked"
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My story started years ago, in the throws of diapers, sleepless nights, and a seemingly neverending messy house. As my children grew, my parenting challenges seemed to grow. My spicy children were tough- and I felt ill-equipped to support them. I knew what kind of parenting I believed in but found it hard to apply in real life. This is my story. I hope it helps YOU feel better about you and your parenting today.LISTEN NOW
Standing in the hallway seeing my child's door slam... a regular occurrence. Screaming, yelling, fighting... our home isn't always like this. But when it does explode it feels huge and heavy- like a weight pressing down on me.
I stand there, unsure of what to do… always unsure. This must be what rock bottom feels like… how could it feel any worse than this? I don’t know where to go from here.
It was a long, slow, painful process… but things slowly changed. Small and simple conversations and a whole lot of time spent thinking about what was going on inside myself.
There wasn’t only one thing that changed, but that change all started with me. All me. Not him. And then somehow, over the months, things started to change with him too. Less intense outbursts, less time spent in meltdown mode… eventually less intense and frequent issues by 90% or more. Without focussing on changing my child… everything changed.
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