S08|06 - How to Not Raise Entitled Kids (or Anything Else You Want to Avoid)

Do you feel like your kids, or the kids you teach or have influence over- struggle with entitlement? Do they believe they should just HAVE everything- and lack the gratitude or appreciation for it? 

One of you lovely audience mamas reached out to me with this exact question- and I have the answer for her, and for you. Whether it’s entitlement, lying, disrespect, lack of responsibility or any other behaviour you’d like to see change- the answer is here. All in one episode. Come listen. 

In this episode: 

• What entitlement is and how we can develop gratitude instead
• Learning is developmental and individual- believe that it’s happening for your kids, and it will (everything is created in consciousness first!)
• The 2 components to teaching: modelling what we want to see and focusing on relationships, not behaviours
• How to know if we do have a good connection with our kids, and what to do if we don’t
• 2 bonus tips for teaching your kids EXACTLY what you want to- without pressure, stress or worry
• You are doing a MUCH better job than you think you are. Thanks for being a part of this community <3

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Hello everyone and welcome to today's podcast episode. Thank you for reaching out and for sharing and for spreading this work – especially for those of you who have been sending me some really awesome messages about; can you do a podcast episode about this? Can you answer my question around this? I would love to hear more of this. 

This is really helping me to create episodes that help you because you are in the trenches, you're in parenting, you're wanting answers to specific things, and I can guide my podcast episodes directly to that…because if you have a question, guaranteed, a lot of other people have the same question - and that's what today's episode is all about. 

This is for my friend who reached out and said, "Hey, how do you teach your kids not to be entitled? Like, I'm worried that my kids might be entitled." 

Her kids are a little bit younger, so I'll give that kind of at the beginning. We'll talk about that as well throughout the episode, but what do we do to not raise entitled children? 

You might look around you in schools or maybe in your community or in your church groups and think, 'Wow, there's a lot of entitlement going around. What do we-- what can we do as a society, as a parent in our homes to change this?' 

First of all, I'm going to describe what entitlement is and how we can shift it. And the other really cool thing about this episode is that you can put in anything else besides entitlement that you want to avoid and use these same steps. What I mean by that is; how do I avoid lying in my kids? How do I create empathy or respect? 

Some other things that I've talked to people about really wanting for their kids are things like emotional intelligence, self-regulation. So, if there's anything that you want to help teach them or you want to avoid, this episode will answer all of those questions, not just entitlement because these are steps that you can use to teach your children anything. These are just the core principles, the core pillars of teaching anything that you want to see in your kids. 

You might not find them very surprising if you've listened to my podcast episodes before. But if you haven't, you might feel like this is kind of a new and different way to think about it. So, I just invite you to be open to receiving new ideas, new inspiration as it comes as you're listening to this. 

And I would love to have a conversation about it too if you're like, 'I don't really understand this part,' or 'I want you to dig more into that,' feel free to send me a message.

So, let's get into it, How to Not Raise Entitled Kids (or Anything Else You Want to Avoid)

 

What entitlement is and how we can develop gratitude instead

The definition of entitlement when I looked on Google is this, the fact of having a right to something – so, feeling like you have a right to something. 

When I think of entitlement, I think of anti-gratitude. I feel like I should just get it. I feel like it's just a privilege that is just bequeathed to me for no reason, and that I don't feel grateful about it. 

And I think gratitude is probably the deeper issue, feeling like I should just get it no matter what. But also, there's no gratitude or appreciation there. 

I've done lots of episodes on gratitude. In fact, just two weeks ago, I think it was, I did an episode on gratitude; and you can go back, and I share some research about the benefits of gratitude so it can help stress levels decrease…it can help you live longer…it can help the vitality that you feel in which you're living longer…it can also just help you enjoy your life more. 

Gratitude is such a blessing, it's such a huge gift for us physically and emotionally. So, of course, we want to figure out, how can we teach this to our kids? We don't want to be raising these kids that are just like, 'I should be entitled to everything that I am given all of the time and it should just be bequeathed to me.' 

So, that's what we're going to dig into too, is this idea of; how can I teach gratitude, which is what we want to teach, and also all of these other kinds of skills that we want to be teaching as well, like emotional intelligence and self-regulation, empathy, respect, responsibility. 

You can add anything to that list. In fact, when I go to teach in schools, if I go to teach Parent Council, for instance, or Parent Nights-- Also, I am taking more speaking engagements this summer and this fall, so if that's something you're interested in having me come to your area, reach out at [email protected]. 

Okay. Back to your regular scheduled programming, as I was teaching in schools, I created this really cool PowerPoint presentation where it is like a choose your own adventure, where in the beginning I ask them like; what are all the things that you are struggling with right now? What are things that you really want to instill in your kids before they leave your home? 

And then based on their answers, I have different ideas and different ways to go within the presentation; and it's a really fun presentation to give. But the purpose of that is that I kind of already know what people are going to say. 

I've done this so many times that I know the answers that people are going to give, and we all want the same sorts of things for our children. We're just not always sure or at least super clear on how it is that we get there and what it is that we can do to teach them these skills. 

So, you can add anything else to that list. In fact, you could take out a piece of paper and a pen and be like, 'Okay, if my child was leaving the house tomorrow--' 

Let's fast-forward until they're 18, 19, 20 – whatever age that is for you – and I want you just to write down all of the things that you would hope that they would have learned in your home…skills that you hope to have them have. 

Also, I'm not all about your kids have to leave just because they're 18. I mean, we don't have to do rules and structures and the norm around here; they can stay for as long as they want, I tell my children that all of the time. 

Okay, so going back to entitlement, I'm going to use that as an example. I'm also going to use a lying example because this is an example that we had in our home and I think it's a really good example too. because I think this is something that we want to avoid as well. Oftentimes people are like, how do I get my kids to stop lying or to be honest? 

So, what we're really wanting to teach is things like gratitude and honesty; how do we teach that? I want you to just to think about it for a minute. Before I give you the answer, I want you to think; how would I teach those things? How would I teach those skills? 

Thinking back to; how have I learned them, how did I learn them? How did that happen to me? 

Okay. Just start opening your eyes up to, what does teaching really look like? Because we so often think teaching means sitting down with a pen and a paper and a teacher; and the teacher imparts all of this wisdom to you and you just soak it all in, and then you learn, right? That is what we teach. 

But discipline comes from the root word discipulus, which means the disciple of learning or a recipient of learning. And the learning actually comes from a parent-child relationship, a teacher-child relationship, whoever's doing the teaching…it comes from relationship first. 

And as that relationship grows, we want to become a disciple of, we want to become a recipient of what it is that they're imbuing…the knowledge that they're imbuing because of how they're being. 

 

The 2 components to teaching: modelling what we want to see and focusing on relationships, not behaviours

So, the two parts I want to pull out from here is; one, we're modeling the behavior that we want to see – and two, we're focusing more on connection and attachment and relationship than trying to shove this knowledge down their throat.

If we're trying to shove the knowledge down their throat, we're going to have a really bad energy about it. We're going to be like, we need to teach you this. We have this frantic hussily energy about it, right? And it's not going to go well; they are not going to be a good recipient of that learning. 

Also, probably we don't have the best attachment or connection, at least in that one area of our parenting, if we're having kind of some negative energy behind it.

 

How to know if we do have a good connection with our kids, and what to do if we don’t

So, number one thing I want you to ask is look at your connection; how is your connection with your child? 

Do you feel like you are fostering a relationship in which a secure attachment is there? A secure attachment being that they feel comfortable with you, they feel connected with you, they feel soothed by you. It doesn't mean that they're soothed immediately. 

My 7-year-old will not let me anywhere near her when she's feeling shame, when she's feeling a lot of anger, a lot of frustration; she won't let anybody talk to her, she won't let anybody soothe her…until she has calmed down a little bit, and then she'll come back and then she'll reconnect, and then we'll snuggle and then we'll hug. Sometimes we talk about it, sometimes we don't. Sometimes we talk about it later, sometimes we don't. 

But the idea is that she does feel connected to me. She does feel taken care of. Even when she's feeling those big emotions, underneath the surface, she probably does still feel like I'm there for her – even though she doesn't entirely access that in that moment. So, you don't have to do this perfectly, for sure. I do not do it perfectly. And I think all of my children are pretty securely attached.

So, you don't have to do this perfectly for it to work. You don't have to be the perfect parent. In fact, we teach them through our imperfections because we model that also. So, allow and welcome those mistakes to come because they will because we're all human. 

And also, that this modeling they'll look towards us for the behavior in which they should act if they have that secure attachment. So, the secure attachment comes first, that connection comes first. And I think we all kind of innately know when we don't listen to that self-doubt and that guilt and that shame brain that can sometimes come on is, do I have a good connection with this child? 

Think of each of your children. If you have one child, just think of them. What do I feel like our connection is like? Deep down, what do you feel like? Because above the surface we're probably going to have like, 'Oh, I don't really know.' 

And we're going to have some doubts and worries and fears and anxieties. And I want you to let that all go for a minute. You can even just thought-dump it out – write it all out, burn that piece of paper, rip it up, put it to the side, whatever you want to do. 

And then deep down like, what do I really think about our connection and our attachment? Do I feel like we have a good relationship? Do I focus more on our relationship and our connection than I do on modifying their behaviors? 

This is exactly the answer to this question, right? I don't want them to be entitled; I want them to be grateful. I don't want them to lie; I want them to be honest. 

Are we so focused on that behavior that we lose the child – that we lose sight of how wonderful and amazing they are, that we lose sight of that connection in that relationship? 

No matter what it is that you want to teach them, this is number one. So, take stock of, how is my relationship with each of these children? 

If you want some help and support in that area, if you're feeling like, 'Okay, I feel pretty connected to this one, but maybe I'm struggling over here,' or 'Maybe I don't feel like my connection is so great,' maybe you feel like it is really awesome, that's great…you can go back to Season 1. 

I have a lot of really good mindset and emotional tips that will help you support you in having a better relationship and a better connection with your child. There's ones around connection specifically. There's ones around shame-free parenting that you'll really love. If you are a person of faith, there's a Faith-Based Parenting episode you'll really love. 

If you go to coachcrystal.ca/blog and then you scroll down about halfway, you're going to see a little search bar and you're just type a word like connection or attachment or shame-free; and then all of those episodes will come up. 

So, feel free to go back to listen to that. I'm not going to focus so much on, how do I create that secure attachment…but I'm just going to go forward believing that, 'Okay, so we have the secure attachment created, we have this good connection created, now what?' 

 

The next step is role modeling the behavior. So, I want you to write down whatever it is; is it entitlement that the issue is, is it lying that the issue is, is it selfishness? Whatever you feel like the behavior is that you are really struggling with at the moment with whatever that child is, I'd like you to write that at the top of the piece of paper. 

The first step is going to always be to dump out all of our thoughts on the page because we're probably going to have a lot of thoughts about it, so we're just going to clear our mind. We can clear our mind best when we can just dump out all of those thoughts. So, dump out all of those thoughts. 

Don't judge yourself for having those thoughts or try to change them or anything. We're not going to do anything with them right now; we're just going to lay them out and we're just going to set them to the side.

When you've done that, you can pause the episode even or you can do this later, come back again; and I invite you to ask yourself, how am I modeling this behavior? We model the behaviors that we want to see, right? 

If discipulus teaching recipient of learning comes through that connection, that relationship that we have, and then looking towards that person for how we want to behave, what are we modeling? 

The roots of attachment are that; we will want to be like that person, we will want to be near them, we will want to be close to them, we will care about their advice, we will look towards them to what they're doing to behave and we will learn from them. 

So, if they're learning from us, what kinds of things are they learning? I want you to think specifically about what you put at the top of that page. So, maybe it's entitlement, maybe it's lying, maybe it's selfishness. 

And I want you to do a little self inventory, not in a way where you're going to shame yourself or feel terrible about yourself, but just to open up our minds to…how am I teaching this? Is this something I already am teaching? 

This friend that reached out to me that was like, I don't know about entitlement and gratitude and…how do I teach it? I know them and I know what kind of a parent they are, and they're a wonderful parent.

 

Learning is developmental and individual- believe that it’s happening for your kids, and it will

And so, I want you to think about, if you are teaching gratitude already, if you are modeling that, if you are a grateful person, believe that they are getting that – believe that they are learning. Now it's 80/20. So, 80% of the time, we're modeling the behavior we want to see. Are we modeling gratitude? Are we modeling honesty? Are we modeling selfless? Not, are we modeling, not, selfishness? Whatever the opposite of that is. Are we modeling the things that we want to see in them? That's going to be 80% of it. 

Then the 20% of it is going to be, we can actually take teaching moments and teach them also. For little kids, it's going to be things like play. They're going to be learning a lot through play; telling them stories, reading them stories. 

For older kids, it's probably going to be more conversational. But again, just not having it be a lecture but having it just kind of open up naturally in conversation and asking them questions…how does that make you feel? How do you think that made that person feel? What do you feel now about that? What do you think about this? Right?

Just kind of like coaching would be; let's ask them, let's open them up – let's have it be more of a conversation and less of a lecture. So, always going back to that 80/20, and believing that they are learning it from us. 

If I am modeling gratitude, if I am not entitled myself and if we have a secure attachment, believe that that is enough – believe that you are teaching them exactly what you need to…then you're not going to feel so much stress, so much pressure, so much worry about it. Doesn't it feel good just to let go of that and be like, 'Yeah, okay, everything's okay. They are learning it. Everything is going to be fine.'

Because guess what? Learning is developmental, and it's very individual. So, I looked up quickly, I was like, at what age do kids learn gratitude? It said around five or so, but there was another one that said like eight; and each child is going to be different, and there's all the uniqueness around our Neurodiversities and whatever too. 

So, I don't really think we even need to narrow down what exact year it is that they're supposed to learn it because I think that's just going to help us dive in more into worrying and focusing on this as a being a real big problem. 

 

But if we lean into, I am modeling this, we do have a secure attachment, we do have a great connection, they are learning exactly what they need to…then we can just release a little bit, right? We can just lean, we can just trust into…this is happening, they are learning this, and it will happen developmentally. 

So, when my kids pee the bed or when my kids are lying or when they're really picky eaters or whatever the behavior is when they're little – like they just like want to go on YouTube all the time – I can believe like, 'Okay, I'm modeling the right behaviors, we have a good connection, I'm believing that this is going to happen developmentally for them.' 

And some kids it might be five, some kids it might be 8, 12, 14, 16 – who knows? I'm going to give you a few tips on what to do if you're like, 'Okay, yeah, I am doing that…I'm feeling good about connection, and I'm feeling good about modeling it, and now what?

I'm going to give you some bonus steps too, but I really want to dig into, or to really leave you with; secure attachment and connection and modeling the behaviors are really the only answers. That is the answers. 

For anything that you want to avoid or anything that you want to imbue, that is what's going to help.

 

2 bonus tips for teaching your kids EXACTLY what you want to- without pressure, stress or worry

Now, a few bonuses if you're feeling like, 'Okay, got that, I'm good…can you give me a couple tips that can help me teach what I want to teach right now?' Definitely can. 

And also, going back to modeling too; make sure that you're really honest in your modeling. Right? When I think about, what am I teaching my kids about screen regulation? I have to be really honest with myself…how often am I on my phone? How often do I check my phone? How often am I working on a screen?

If I am teaching them that they don't need to be on screens all the time, that they shouldn't be on their phones all the time, that they shouldn't be on social media all the time, all of those things…but I'm not modeling that myself, that's going to be huge.

And also, going back to developmentally, there are some ages where they're just not going to be able to get that or to understand that, and that's okay too. We can just allow room for development and growth; and I would say avoid things like screens for as long as you can so that that development and growth is happening for them.

Okay? So, we're believing that it's happening. We're allowing it to be developmental. We are understanding that we don't have to be perfect in our teaching, that we don't have to be perfect in our modeling. We're taking little teaching moments if we want to, but also understanding that most of it is just going to come from us modeling that behavior. So, we don't need to worry about it so much; there's no pressure around it.

 

Parenting lenses

Here's a couple of bonuses. 

If you are doing both of these already, these two tips will help you kind of use these two lenses – these, I'll call them parenting lenses. They're two lenses that have been really useful for me.

 

1. Zoom-out lens

Number one is the zoom-out lens. The zoom-out lens for me looks like, 'Okay, wait, what's really important here?' When I'm really focused on a behavior, I can zoom right in…it's like a microscope. It's like zooming me all the way in. I feel like the problem is right in front of me. I feel like it's huge. I feel like there's no answer. I feel like I have to solve it right now. 

If there's any amount of urgency or franticness or pressure around that, this lens is going to be really helpful for you because It's really hard to intuitively find answers for us when we are feeling so close to the problem. 

So, we can just zoom out to, what's really important here? What's the most important thing here? 

Let's just zoom out, is this even going to be a problem when they're 18? 

So, when my kids wet the bed, for instance, and I'm just like, 'Oh, it's happening over and over and over again…this is not changing, I've tried all the things, I've Googled all the things, I've tried all of those things. 

But I'm like, 'Wait a second, do I even part of me think this is going to be a problem when they're 18? Do I feel like they're going to be at university and I'm going to have to be solving this issue for them?' 

And as soon as I think about that, I'm like, 'No, it's fine. It's developmental. They'll grow out of it. They'll figure it out. Their body and their brain will connect. It'll be fine.'

 

I'm going to give a little story about lying, like I said I was going to in the beginning. So, I want you to think about this story because it's so funny; and I'm sure you're going to have similar stories to this too. 

But our child recently, he's 10 now. We were thinking-- We were talking about do you remember when. Do you remember when we lived in this house and do you remember when this happened? And we were kind of talking about these stories and we were going back to like five years ago. 

And he brought up these times when he was like, I remember in the middle of the night waking up and sneaking to like watch YouTube or play video games in the middle of the night. And he was not lying about this now. Like he's like, this really happened. 

He described it very in detail. I knew that that was actually happening. And he also went back to like, I used to lie a lot too. And he remembered that he used to lie a lot. And I asked him like, what changed for you? 

This is so fascinating to me too that he can remember all of this. Like he was like five and remembering that he used to lie when he was five. We didn't know. Like we didn't know about the video games in the middle of the night and we did not know about the lying. 

So, part of it is the zooming out. It's so easy to see from this forward perspective, but talking to him about it now, I said like, "What changed for you?" 

And he said, "I remember that my older brother--" His older brother is 14 now. He got really into lie detecting. He started watching YouTube videos about it. He wrote a whole essay on lie detecting. He got a little lie detector. He just loved it. 

And this little 10-year-old, who at the time was five or six, thought, 'Oh shoot, now everybody's going to know when I'm lying so I can't lie anymore.' So, then he stopped lying. 

And it's so interesting to me now because if I had known about it back then, I would've been that zoomed-in microscope. I would've been like, 'Oh my goodness, he's lying. This is a big deal. What is happening? We need to change this.' 

It would've felt like a really big deal. I would've felt a lot of pressure about it. But now that it's gone, like we don't have video games in our home anymore and he's older and more regulated and lying is not an issue that we deal with anymore…it doesn't seem like such an issue. 

And I thought about that in the issues that we're currently facing with each of our children. And then my husband was like, I wonder if we could zoom out there too. Like what if we could zoom into the next year or two years, five years, 10 years and see ourselves now, would we feel so much pressure in this thing that we feel like is a problem – that we talk about a lot, that we try to solve a lot? Right?

Or would we be like, 'Oh wait, it's not that big of a deal, it's actually not that big of a problem?' Right? We can use this zoom-out lens to zoom out a year or five years, 10 years and understand that development happens individually…it happens uniquely. And a lot of these things really aren't going to be issues when we think about them in the future. 

So, think about that for you; how can I use this zoom-out lens? If I have a good secure attachment, if I'm modeling that behavior and believing that that change is going to happen, that they're going to learn those things…how can I, in this moment, zoom out so the problem doesn't feel so up-close and right in front of my face? How can I make it seem a little bit farther? 

 

2. Compassionate lens

Number two, the other lens is the compassionate lens.

So, compassion is the energy that I love to parent from. It is really difficult for me to get to when I'm feeling heavy frustration. I'll actually put a link in the show notes about how to move frustration through your body in 15 minutes or less because I created a little video / audio meditation kind of process for that that will really be helpful for you. But I love to get to compassion. 

I can struggle to get to compassion; sometimes I have to do some thought work, sometimes I have to meditate, sometimes I have to process that emotion for a while before I can get to compassion. 

But if I'm feeling compassion and if I'm feeling connected and if I'm feeling confident, then I ask myself something like; what's going on behind this behavior? 

 

So, going back to the example of my child is entitled, I don't feel like they're grateful…I can zoom out from a space of compassion, compassionate energy – what do I think's really going on here? Maybe it is developmental. Maybe they don't totally understand. Maybe there is some neurodiversity, and they just haven't made those connections yet. Or maybe they're just having a hard time in this one specific issue. Maybe there's something small that I just want to say or do or change or shift. 

Something will come to you from the compassionate lens. It'll either be something to do or not to do, to pause or action, it will be either/or. Don't know what it's going to be for you – but I do know that from a compassionate lens, that we can tune into the answers that come to us intuitively…and that they will be very unique to us. They'll sound like us. They'll feel like us. They'll feel so specific, right? 

People will message me and ask me what to do specifically about a situation that they're dealing with in their family, in their home…I can't go in there and know exactly what they can do, but I do know that as they clear this out, as they clean this out, as they move to compassion, that those intuitive answers will come to them. 

So, if things are going well for you, as in you feel like you've worked on your connection well, things are going pretty well-- I love hearing from you guys, by the way, telling me that like, "Connection's growing and I'm feeling good about things"…I love, love, love that. 

So, if you're listening to this and you're like, 'Yeah, connection's going pretty well, it's something we've been focusing on.' 

Also, I feel like I am modeling this pretty well. I feel like I'm a pretty grateful person. I feel like I'm not a person that lies all the time. Honesty and integrity important to me. Believing that that's possible.

Then you can use one of these two lenses when it feels like a problem, right? When it feels close-up, we can zoom out. We can use that lens to zoom out. 

When it feels like a problem, we can use the compassionate lens. We can move ourselves to a compassionate energy and then we can ask ourselves, what's really going on behind this behavior? 

And if there is something that I do want to teach, how do I want to teach it? How could I best teach this? 

Remembering the teaching isn't sitting down with a textbook and a teacher and a pen and a paper; that this isn't how we teach things like emotional intelligence, respect, empathy. 

It's going to be a lot more interactive, a lot more play-based, a lot more fun, a lot more conversational, a lot more asking questions and pointing out things and helping them to see. 

 

You are doing a MUCH better job than you think you are. Thanks for being a part of this community

I believe that if you're listening to this podcast, you're probably doing a much better job than you think you are. You're probably doing a pretty amazing job, actually. 

I would invite you to come join us in The Creation Room if you want to focus on relationship, improving your relationships…if you want to focus on, things are already going well, and I want to tune more into my intuition in whatever area of my life it is, this is exactly what we're doing in The Creation Room. So, go check that out. 

And also, check out my other offers. I might have some breathwork or hypnotherapy or something by the time this gets updated. And you can also always message me at [email protected]. If this is something that you're really feeling like the work that you want to do, I would love to help support you in that work somehow.

So, let's not raise entitled kids. Let's spread gratitude. Let's spread abundance. Let's spread empathy, self-regulation, compassion, connection, responsibility, respect. All of those things that we want to teach, we can teach them through us being first. Right? Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world." 

I like to think, 'Be the change you want to see in your family, be the change you want to see in your kids,' because that has been my story, that has been every single one of my clients' stories…that that is how our children learn it and it will keep happening for you, so just believe that it is happening. Use those two lenses, zoom out.

And thank you for being here. Thank you for listening to this podcast, and for being a part of this amazing community that we're growing and changing. I feel like it's this movement of changing the world of parenting in a totally different way, of leaving shame behind us, of giving our children a better chance than we probably had by giving them more of a secure attachment and of modeling these behaviors we want to see in them. 

And if you would love for me to come speak at an event close to you in your area, on your school, church, whatever that is, reach out to me at [email protected], and we will see you next week. 

 

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